View New Posts
  1. 09-01-10 10:10 PM #1
    Swinging Johnson
    Swinging Johnson's Avatar SBR PRO
    Join Date: 08-12-09
    Posts: 3,995
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Question Do you begrudge your friend's success?

    Until recently, I was never aware of this phenomenon. Truth. I don't know if it's hearing it through other people or reading it along my travels but it has become painfully obvious that friends seem to be more likely to get jealous of a friend's successes than to applaud and rejoice.

    This completely baffles me. I have had the good fortune of knowing several people who have achieved magnificent financial success and I am almost as thrilled as they. As a matter of fact, I can even say I feel good about passing acquaintances who succeed and do well. Although I may not revel in their glory as I do for my friends, I am nonetheless pleased.

    Personally, I don't know how it is possible to feel any other way. Who out there can't stand good fortune bestowed upon your friends that eclipses your own achievements?
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  2. 09-01-10 10:13 PM #2
    flyingillini
    Ashdod to Haifa
    flyingillini's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 12-06-06
    Posts: 32,777
    SBR Points: 14
    Message Me

    Default

    I love hearing about my friends succeed in life. I surround myself around positive successful people and it brings me joy to find out they are making it in life, in all aspects. I am the one out of the group that hasn't done well, well at least compared to them.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  3. 09-01-10 10:16 PM #3
    Swinging Johnson
    Swinging Johnson's Avatar SBR PRO
    Join Date: 08-12-09
    Posts: 3,995
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Default

    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  4. 09-01-10 10:31 PM #4
    THE PROFIT
    THE PROFIT's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 11-27-09
    Posts: 17,731
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Default

    I dont know, you say acquaintances then you say friends. BIG difference. I dont mind it either way, but you dont have to hear it from passing acquaintances all the time. It gets pretty annoying to see some friends become successful when you know they are fukin idiots & you know they will find a way to fuk it up
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  5. 09-01-10 10:40 PM #5
    goofyre
    Cole World.
    goofyre's Avatar SBR PRO
    Join Date: 04-20-10
    Posts: 1,195
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Default

    It's a selfish world out there. Plenty of people would steal from their best friend without a second thought.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote

    CHARITY DONOR
    12/17/2011 $25 donation

  6. 09-01-10 10:42 PM #6
    flyingillini
    Ashdod to Haifa
    flyingillini's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 12-06-06
    Posts: 32,777
    SBR Points: 14
    Message Me

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by goofyre View Post
    It's a selfish world out there. Plenty of people would steal from their best friend without a second thought.
    I agree, a lot of people steal and cheat all the time. I don't put myself in a situation where someone can do that to me though.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  7. 09-01-10 10:43 PM #7
    fsugolf
    gg big 10 you fking bums
    fsugolf's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 07-17-09
    Posts: 6,221
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Default

    I love seeing my friends do well, whether it be financially or just generally in life. Envy is one of those 7 deadly sins for a reason
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  8. 09-02-10 12:59 AM #8
    Killer_Demo
    SacKings.Fresno ST.SFGiants.OAK Raiders
    Killer_Demo's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 06-15-08
    Posts: 2,064
    SBR Points: 6
    Message Me

    Default

    always gonna be haters...i see that kind of thing alot where i'm from
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  9. 09-02-10 02:50 AM #9
    SBR_John
    Wisky
    SBR_John's Avatar Administrator
    Join Date: 07-12-05
    Posts: 13,772
    SBR Points: 8655
    Message Me

    Default

    Ive heard it referred to as the crab effect. Like crabs in a bucket, when one crab is almost to the top and glorious freedom the others try to grab him and bring him back down to their level.

    I chose my signature as great advice for everyone.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
    1250pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY1st Place 3/31/2012

    CHARITY DONOR
    12/01/2011 $475 donation

    SBR Founder Join Date: 7/12/2005

    855pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY1st Place 5/12/2012

  10. 09-02-10 02:54 AM #10
    Ace_of_Spades
    Yaya Toure!
    Ace_of_Spades's Avatar Become A Pro!
    Join Date: 10-14-09
    Posts: 12,464
    SBR Points: 228
    Message Me

    Default

    Friends are always jealous, it's human nature.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
  11. 09-02-10 03:57 AM #11
    Cuse0323
    Ball Hard D Waiters
    Cuse0323's Avatar SBR PRO
    Join Date: 12-09-09
    Posts: 6,623
    SBR Points: 11
    Message Me

    Default

    Some friends of mine have acted different since I suddenly had more money because of things I never wanted to happen. They're just miserable pricks and should be treated accordingly.
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
    400pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY1st Place 5/11/2012

    175pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY6th Place 5/29/2012

    400pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY1st Place 5/22/2012

    60pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY13th Place 5/25/2012

    150pts

    SBR POKER TOURNEY7th Place 5/28/2012

  12. 09-02-10 12:21 PM #12
    Swinging Johnson
    Swinging Johnson's Avatar SBR PRO
    Join Date: 08-12-09
    Posts: 3,995
    SBR Points: 0
    Message Me

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by SBR_John View Post
    Ive heard it referred to as the crab effect. Like crabs in a bucket, when one crab is almost to the top and glorious freedom the others try to grab him and bring him back down to their level.

    I chose my signature as great advice for everyone.
    The Mark Twain quote is particularly germaine to this topic. Another one I like: "Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society."
    Reply With Quote Reply With Quote
Top
« Previous Thread | Players Talk | Next Thread »